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Happy Sober Anniversary to ME!

Three months no alcohol today.

One month no cigarettes or “other” mind altering substances. 

There are good days and bad ones but the good ones are definitely starting to outweigh the bad. I am getting used to not drinking. I am still waiting to get used to not smoking but I can imagine a time when I will be used to that too. That’s new, I have always seen myself as a smoker. That’s not true anymore.

I can honestly say, I like sobriety. SO to celebrate my anniversary today I am doing…

drumroll please…

THE TOP TEN REASONS WHY SOBER LIVING IS AWESOME

10. I have a lot more time to do creative things now that I am not spending hours sitting on the porch smoking and drinking with my girlfriends.

9. I no longer smell like an alcohol soaked ashtray trying to hide beneath a gallon of perfume and flowered lotions. 

8. I am brushing my teeth two or three times a day now, instead of ten times a day when I was hiding cigarettes and alcohol on my breathe.

7. I haven’t asked the question, “Am I too drunk to drive?” or woken up to the thought “wow, I really shouldn’t have driven home last night.” in three months. I LOVE that so much. I think it might be my favorite thing on this list.

6. I haven’t had a hangover in three months. This no hangover thing, it’s really wonderful.

5. Aside from yelling at my kids a few times, I haven’t done anything in three months that made me feel humiliated or ashamed of myself. No, I think this one is my favorite.

4. My husband keeps saying how much he loves me when I am sober. I was worried, he always loved how fun I was in bars…but he only loved me in the beginning of the night before I got sloppy. Now he can’t stop saying how calm I seem and how happy.

3. Alcohol is expensive. If I drank three or four bottles of wine a week at home, that’s $80-$100 a week on just wine. That doesn’t include the savings when I don’t order alcohol in bars or restaurants. I am saving SO much money.

2. The world is getting clearer everyday. Sometimes that clarity is scary, but I am embracing the fear rather than turning from it.

AND THE NUMBER ONE THING I LOVE ABOUT SOBRIETY…

1. I am pretty sure I can do anything now. If I can do this, live three months without one drop of alcohol, I am convinced there isn’t anything I can’t do. This is not cocky…this is not ego. This is me, living the truth and proving to myself that I can change. 

I am pretty proud of myself. And as I get ready to head to bed for the night…I feel incredibly blessed and happy.

Seriously considering making another declaration on the 21st of April, to give up sugar for a while. That’s a hard one and I don’t want to do too much and I make myself crazier than I am normally. We shall see…maybe that’s what I will blog about tomorrow.

Have a wonderful day.

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13 thoughts on “Happy Sober Anniversary to ME!

  1. umalicious on said:

    i’m doing the happy dance for you :-) i have been thinking about the EXACT same things! last nite i felt like a couple beers (i rehearse with a band) and instead i grabbed a pelligrino. the craving went away instantly. i woke today at 6am & the first thing that made me happy was not having a hangover! THAT’S the best thing for me. being in the drunken state dosen’t last half as long as the after effects.

    i also was surprised to see how much money i had in my checking account. i never thought twice about blowing hundreds on alcohol. i was in denial how much it was hurting me! my husband has been laid off for most of the year & i make less than poverty $, so it was really idiotic not to care about actually CHARGING booze! wtf.

    creative things! yes! i have not driven in a dozen years, but have been on my bike drunk a few times. whoa. (why am i alive?)-and smelling like booze-i was not as careful as you because drinking made me lazy. even too lazy to wash my dumpster mouth. i simply did not care. again-selfish.

    you CAN and you WILL do many great things in the future! i’m rooting for you! this is super inspirational. thanks for taking your time to put here for me to read. have a great weekend!

  2. YAY! I am so glad you found it inspirational. That is so awesome and makes me glad I stayed up late to write it! You have a wonderful weekend too.

  3. Whoo-hoo! One of my favorite things? Celebrating without having a drink. That was hard in the beginning because happiness is a trigger for me. I love #5. No drunk Facebooking or having to check my sent items to see if I emailed something stupid. You’re so right about proving that you can do anything! You’re such a great role model for your kids.

    • I actually had a status on Facebook once of “note to self: drunk people should not post on Facebook”
      HAHA. That’s a great one. I actually have been noticing I am on Facebook a LOT less than I used to be and I don’t post as often. Maybe because my life is boring now without all the social events…but I am really liking boring right now.

  4. Thanks for posting. I need to make a personalized list like this for myself, because there are some days when I just want to say screw it and go back to drinking.

    • I think that’s really normal. I don’t want to go back to drinking like I was but there are days when I wish I could just have a glass of wine with dinner. But I proved to myself that I just couldn’t do it…that one always turned to another one and another one. When I get weak, I have been forcing myself to remember the feeling of what, for me, was hitting bottom. When I imagine being that sad again (about four or five days after I quit drinking…I think the reality took a while to set in) I get so scared…I don’t drink. If you made a list of the things you miss about drinking and then another one that was about the pleasures of sobriety…I think it would be pretty obvious. Good luck…I know you can do it!

  5. Rhonda Geske on said:

    Renee I’m really happy for you. And I really appreciate that you’ve decided to write this blog..I could have used it about 12 years ago. But it’s still incredibly helpful to connect with women who share similar stories, feelings, emotions around alcohol. I know I owe you my full “story” but I sometimes have this amazingly powerful urge to drink and I even salivate just thinking about it. I pray for those people who can’t resist the temptation. I don’t know but does that make me less of an alcoholic? Was my Mom more of an alcoholic than I? I do know that she couldn’t resist and lost the battle. I am grateful everyday for my sobriety.

  6. Congrats! Reaching 90 days is a big milestone. Keep writing too! I found writing to be a great outlet and extremely valuable when I would look back and read my old posts after a year or so.

  7. Awesome on said:

    :) happy anniversary!
    love your list.
    print it out and read it often!

    you can do it!!

  8. Congratulations! 90 days is a long time without a drink! Amen to the growing clarity day by day. I’ve often felt like I was at the eye doctor- you know, when they click the little screens and say “okay is this one more clear, or is this one better? One or two?” Every day seems to get just a little less hazy, a little more clear, a bit more in focus.
    I’ve just started following your blog, but am so glad to have found it. Congrats again!

    • Thanks so much. Its definitely a roller coaster. But its worth it. I know it is. I saw a friend last night who has been sober 4 years. I asked her how long it took her to stop salivating over alcohol and she said its been 2 years since she really has…but that she is still careful around alcohol…just in case. Thanks for following my blog!

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Happy Sober Anniversary to ME!

Three months no alcohol today.

One month no cigarettes or “other” mind altering substances. 

There are good days and bad ones but the good ones are definitely starting to outweigh the bad. I am getting used to not drinking. I am still waiting to get used to not smoking but I can imagine a time when I will be used to that too. That’s new, I have always seen myself as a smoker. That’s not true anymore.

I can honestly say, I like sobriety. SO to celebrate my anniversary today I am doing…

drumroll please…

THE TOP TEN REASONS WHY SOBER LIVING IS AWESOME

10. I have a lot more time to do creative things now that I am not spending hours sitting on the porch smoking and drinking with my girlfriends.

9. I no longer smell like an alcohol soaked ashtray trying to hide beneath a gallon of perfume and flowered lotions. 

8. I am brushing my teeth two or three times a day now, instead of ten times a day when I was hiding cigarettes and alcohol on my breathe.

7. I haven’t asked the question, “Am I too drunk to drive?” or woken up to the thought “wow, I really shouldn’t have driven home last night.” in three months. I LOVE that so much. I think it might be my favorite thing on this list.

6. I haven’t had a hangover in three months. This no hangover thing, it’s really wonderful.

5. Aside from yelling at my kids a few times, I haven’t done anything in three months that made me feel humiliated or ashamed of myself. No, I think this one is my favorite.

4. My husband keeps saying how much he loves me when I am sober. I was worried, he always loved how fun I was in bars…but he only loved me in the beginning of the night before I got sloppy. Now he can’t stop saying how calm I seem and how happy.

3. Alcohol is expensive. If I drank three or four bottles of wine a week at home, that’s $80-$100 a week on just wine. That doesn’t include the savings when I don’t order alcohol in bars or restaurants. I am saving SO much money.

2. The world is getting clearer everyday. Sometimes that clarity is scary, but I am embracing the fear rather than turning from it.

AND THE NUMBER ONE THING I LOVE ABOUT SOBRIETY…

1. I am pretty sure I can do anything now. If I can do this, live three months without one drop of alcohol, I am convinced there isn’t anything I can’t do. This is not cocky…this is not ego. This is me, living the truth and proving to myself that I can change. 

I am pretty proud of myself. And as I get ready to head to bed for the night…I feel incredibly blessed and happy.

Seriously considering making another declaration on the 21st of April, to give up sugar for a while. That’s a hard one and I don’t want to do too much and I make myself crazier than I am normally. We shall see…maybe that’s what I will blog about tomorrow.

Have a wonderful day.

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